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all right
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mariangela abeo so happy to have you on
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the everyday enthusiast you
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are a mental health advocate and
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photographer
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you're the founder of the faces of
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fortitude movement
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tell me a little well first of all i'm
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just so happy to have you thank you for
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coming on
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thanks for having me i'm happy to be
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here so tell me a little bit
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about what inspired uh your founding of
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the faces of fortitude
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you know uh brian i was a i'm a trained
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producer
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by trade and so i worked for a company
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that many of
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your viewers probably will know of
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creative live
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for uh several years and so i was
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connected to a lot of photographers but
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i actually wasn't a photographer um five
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years ago if you would tell me i was
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would be a professional photographer i'd
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laugh at you uh and
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but i produced many shoots and i was
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part of it um
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and we had uh
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photo week which is the big week uh when
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creative live was
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it was in the height of its uh fun and
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uh we had
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a photographer come by the name of
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stacey pursel and she's a
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wounded war vet that has a photo project
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called the veterans portrait project
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and she did a whole lecture on how
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to take something that touches you
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deeply and create a project around it
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and i
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lost my brother to suicide 13 years ago
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and i had kind of spiraled for several
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years trying
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to figure out how i was gonna handle
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that grief and how i was gonna handle
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that and
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um you know production was fine but you
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know in the movie production world it's
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a lot of work and it's a lot of overhead
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and i had a 10 year old nikon which i
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still use to this day by the way i
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shout out to nikon for good products um
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that was in my closet that my
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father-in-law gifted me he was a
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uh sports photographer and he said i've
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got this old camera if you want it and i
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stuck it in the closet
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and i pulled it out and i ran with the
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idea
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of doing a project and i didn't think
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anything of it i honestly thought i'm
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gonna take a class at creativelive i
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took one class online
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to learn how to light with one light
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shout out to christopher knight for the
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one light class
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and um i didn't even know settings i was
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such a fake in the beginning and i still
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am not a technical photographer i
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remember in the very beginning of my
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project i did an interview with the slr
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lounge and
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they asked me all these tech details and
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i was like let me make something very
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clear
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i'm not a technical photographer and i
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was i felt like such a fraud for so long
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because i'm an emotional photographer
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and the ceo of creative live chase
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jarvis who's a brilliant photographer
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and a friend sat me down and he said
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listen you don't have to know all that
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you have to listen to yourself you have
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to look at your subject you have to play
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with your light
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and you have to make it make a photo
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that
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makes you feel and i think that's what i
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did from that moment on and uh when i
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put my photo
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out there it exploded and i had no idea
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that was gonna happen because it was my
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portrait but it was also the story of
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the loss of my brother my own suicide
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attempt at 17
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and people strangers started coming into
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my inbox saying tell my story take my
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photo and i was like
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i'm not good enough to take your photo
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like i don't know what i'm doing so i
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quickly taught myself because i had this
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passion this kind of drive all of a
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sudden that i was like oh
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maybe this is something i need to do and
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still to this day use that 10 year old
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nikon
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and i will piece together i'm like the
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macgyver of photography really
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i i piece together whatever gear i can
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find whatever
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whatever gear i have and i just make it
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work in whatever city i'm in
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oh i love it isn't it funny how just
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those small
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moments of chance you know you said i
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think you said it was your stepfather
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gifting you a camera just leads you down
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a completely new road in life
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i mean it's uh it's just crazy how those
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little moments can just change
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everything
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it's like it's incredible because
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you know i think it does so many things
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it was my father-in-law
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and so it's incredible in so many ways
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because
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now that the project's grown and 200
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faces later and i'm doing talks and
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traveling
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he's so excited so he's like you're
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still using my camera
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and it gives him a newfound excitement
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in his photography and retirement
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and you know it just and it also i feel
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like i have a lot of people that come to
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me and say
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i'm not trained and i don't have a fancy
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fancy camera and i don't have all these
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things and i'm like
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i am proof that you don't need all the
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bells and whistles
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absolute proof and uh that's kind of
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almost an
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embodying that diy spirit as a
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photographer
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would you would you recommend like how
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would you recommend to upcoming
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photographers would you say
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take those classes or just kind of wing
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it and see what feels right for you
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i'd say a little bit of both i think the
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classes helped me i took chris knight's
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um one light class and i took um that's
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on creative live and i took
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um mike kagan is a great diy
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photographer and he can show you how to
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make reflectors and
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backdrops and things from in your house
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he's just brilliant and so i took one of
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his classes and so i think
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that and then learning using youtube
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google
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like teach yourself when you need to
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learn something
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don't automatically open your pocketbook
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don't automatically think that you
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aren't able to do something
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we have so many resources free at our
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fingertips on the internet
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i've learned so much about uh lighting
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just through trial and error you know
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how do i i used to watch lighting
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you know amazing lighting uh artists
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that i'm just like i'm never going to
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learn to do that
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so how did i do it now i have one light
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it's simple but i
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move it and i wait and i just i look in
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the eyes of my subject and i make sure
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that
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the light is where i want it to be in
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their eyes and that it's
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you know if i see a subject starting to
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cry
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i make sure that i have set my light in
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a way
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that it's going to reflect off their
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tears but also in a way that i don't
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have to
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to interrupt them during that moment
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it's already set up before so that my
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camera is not even like i don't i
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very rarely touch it during my sessions
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i will adjust the light every now and
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then but
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the last thing you want is to interrupt
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a moment where you're able to bond
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with somebody over a photo and and that
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bond between photographer and subject is
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so intimate and important and obviously
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very central to your project
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i mean it's so therapeutic i mean
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obviously your inspiration came from the
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veterans portrait project
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um in your experience have you seen that
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kind of transformation emotionally for
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people to as you know they're coping
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with these these losses in their lives
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has your project kind of given them that
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extra you know
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lift to get over that yeah
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i should say no absolutely you know i
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don't think we ever
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move past something like like uh mental
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illness or trauma or
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suicide but i do think that there's a
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form of empowerment
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that is created when we have the courage
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to touch something really painful within
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ourselves
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and show it to someone else and i think
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in that moment and that's why this you
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know i've had a lot of people especially
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on instagram
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um come to me asking me you know you're
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so far
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away i want to create a project like
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this where i live in switzerland or
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whatever and i'm like
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okay sure like i can't control you for
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from not doing that but i can tell you
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that if you're not connected emotionally
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personally
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it's not gonna work because the only
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reason
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i'm able to connect with these people is
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because i have this own pain that i'm
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willing to touch myself
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and i'm willing to dig deep and i'm
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willing to go
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and empower myself enough to be
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vulnerable in front of them
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which gives them the license to be
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vulnerable with me and so what i found
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is
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you know if you picture it like an organ
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in your body because
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viscerally pain kind of most of us feel
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it here
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if you pull that out and put it in a
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space
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where other people are or one person in
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a photo session
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and you put it on the floor that leaves
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a space inside you
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where you can put something positive
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where you can start to grow and heal
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so i've seen so many people on the verge
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of of
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suicide still and and or ideation or
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loss and you know i i i interviewed a
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woman who lost her
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13 year old son to suicide her
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she was absolutely gutted
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but her ab her her abandonment when she
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was able
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to let all of that out in a session now
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she's running a foundation in his name
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like it's it's absolutely
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limitless what you can do with the
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post-traumatic growth which is something
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i learned about kind of
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in the middle of my process what you do
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with that trauma
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it's it's limitless what you can do with
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that is fuel and i've seen so much
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empowerment
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so much progress so much healing from
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people
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in this project and even people that i
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just talked to on the internet or
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in person at exhibits it's amazing and i
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i to think that i did this to heal
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myself
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and in turn now there's this domino
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effect it's been pretty amazing honestly
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and although you know it must be also
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very taxing you know to be so
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emotionally invested in every shoot
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i mean some photographers you know they
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probably shoot the subject you know
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you know they're in they're out and that
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may be it but for you it's you know you
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really
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make that emotional investment into
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those subjects and i mean they just
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relive that experience when they do the
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shoot but you're doing it
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every time it must be very taxing on you
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to just do that every week or however
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often you do them
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yes and no you know i have a lot of
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people say this is heavy
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yeah i had to put in some boundaries
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really fast
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because you know i'm a caretaker and so
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i wanted to take care of everyone i
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wanted to make everybody my best friend
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i wanted everybody to be family
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thankfully i have a therapist who
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is very wonderful and she's been around
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for a while and she was like
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so that's not gonna be sustainable you
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have to have some boundaries here
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and um so all of my faces are family
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they're all part of this community now
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but i can't be family with all of them i
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can't be best friends with all of them
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because i find myself wanting to make
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sure they're all okay
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and i can't you know something i learned
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very quickly after my brother
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died was that i can't save everybody
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but if i can go to sleep at night
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knowing that i have opened myself up
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enough to make somebody feel safe to
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talk about their pain
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then i can sleep that's beautiful um
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were you
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shocked by how far reaching your project
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eventually became were you were you
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shocked by the success
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yeah i mean i think success is uh a
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variable here because a lot of people
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still say that to me and i'm like
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i don't know who knows you know i'm
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still in that it's not an imposter
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syndrome but i don't think i'm exactly
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where i want it to reach yet
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you know covet happened at the brink of
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kind of a few things for me
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and obviously i can't do sessions right
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now however
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i am um i'm cooking up a few virtual
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sessions and i'm going to try to do some
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photography virtually i know several
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photographers are doing it i just
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haven't broached into it
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um but i have been surprised you know i
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go out it's it's
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i go to protest right now at black lives
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matter protests and i get people that
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are like
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your face is a fortitude and i'm like
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wow or even you know people online
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tagging me and things saying oh i know
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her or
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you know this reached switzerland and
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russia and i'm like
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what so i'm still in that phase where i
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don't
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quite believe i have tons of fans in
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brazil i had no idea
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like i because i've never been there
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when i
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hear this it's kind of unbelievable um i
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know
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you know one of my goals for 2020 and
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now it's been pushed to 2021 of course
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has been to travel to all the places
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where i have fans so
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um i hope that happens to kind of make
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it a little more real to me
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well that's also the beauty of
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photography as an art form it's
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it's universal there's no language to it
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so you can be in brazil
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and speak a totally different language
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but still understand and appreciate
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you know the work behind the heart um
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wow so
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internationally wow so it must be very
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uh uh
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shocking to have people come to you on
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the street and recognize you that must
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be kind of a jarring feeling
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it is and what i realize is it's my neck
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tattoo because
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it sets me apart because most we're all
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in masks right now and i usually have
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like
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a baseball cap masks sunglasses not that
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i'm trying to be incognito that's just
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how i am when i'm out
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and um the fact that they still
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recognize me i'm always like
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what are you talking to but you're right
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it is me
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but i don't have a problem with it i
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love it when people
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want to connect because it means the
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only people that connect with me over
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this project are people that are touched
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in some way by it
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and so that immediately sets them apart
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for me it immediately makes me want to
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go
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oh i'm sorry that you're connected but
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i'm happy that you're connected
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you know what i mean it's kind of a club
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that none of us want to be part of
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but at the same time we're happy that
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we're not alone
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and your tattoos they're beautiful by
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the way i love them thank you
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and i always feel there's this uh thing
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with people who have tattoos they are
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storytellers their body is their canvas
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and uh obviously you embody that in
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other you know ways in life as a
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photographer
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do you kind of feel that synchronicity
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in your life or you've kind of maybe
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always been
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somebody who tells stories and your
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storyteller visually
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yeah i am i think that the world is such
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a
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fascinating place but i think people and
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their
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their power to overcome
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things the power of the human spirit is
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just
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fascinating to me so to tell those
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stories in photography
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and in my art or in words and in content
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because i'm writing a book like to do
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all of that
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um i think it's such an
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art to be able to draw a picture that
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way you know what i mean
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absolutely and uh you mentioned you know
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obviously we can't be holding sessions
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right now because of cobit but you're
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adapting
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you are launching a podcast has it
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already launched it so it launched
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at the beginning of the of the uh the
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quarantine in march
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um and i did it you know i'll be super
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honest with everybody out there
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i was not a podcast fan in fact you
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could probably say i hated podcasts
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i just i was one of those i know i was
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one of those
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people that thought i'm gonna turn on a
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podcast and give it a try and i would
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immediately fall asleep
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i don't know why people because most
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podcasters have great voices they have
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they're very soothing
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i would just fall asleep it shows that i
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was doing too much and then
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the quarantine happened and i had a lot
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of people reach out to me saying what
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are you gonna do i still need this space
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i depend on it so much
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and i had to create something that was
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bringing people in creating a safe space
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but also still allowing this
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conversation to happen
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and a podcast just made sense and it's
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actually not
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faith it's not faces of fortitude it's
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face to faces which is
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a little different in the way that i
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don't tell stories of suicide
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because that's not necessarily the human
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experience every day
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it's a podcast around the human
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experience and i focus because i'm queer
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i focus on the queer side of things and
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the poc side of things because right now
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i feel like giving
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uh the the poc community especially the
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you know uh qt community a voice
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is very important and talking about
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what's happening in the world right now
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talking about mental health because
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everything that's happening in the world
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right now trickles down to mental
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health it's it affects our mental health
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all of us
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whether it's the viral pandemic the
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racial pandemic
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the up government all of these
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things
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affect our mental health and so that's
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what what we talked about in this
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podcast and then now i am starting to
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trickle in
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um faces uh portrait uh
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sessions and people will get to see what
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a session looks like
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virtually so i'm i'm behind the scenes
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building that i'm
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actually filming my first one next week
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wow
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awesome and did you mention you're
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writing a book i am so i have
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two books in the works i have a portrait
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book
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called faces of fortitude and which is
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um
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the first edition which will be the
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problem is i can't finish it until
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i take my photos in new york i have
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about 35
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faces that are vetted and approved and
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ready
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that are in new york that i have to take
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those photos so those are finishing that
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book so that book is about
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halfway done it's all it's portraits
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it's photographers notes and it's
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poetry on depression and mental illness
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um and that's just more like a coffee
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table book photography book
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and then uh day one of the quarantine i
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started writing my memoir
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which is called the house of m and just
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about the abuse that i experienced as a
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child
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um my journey into becoming a producer
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and photographer and
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now kind of where i am now in this new
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journey so
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um yeah talk about digging deep during
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quarantine that's definitely what i'm
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doing
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there's a happy ending there's a happy
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ending yeah for sure
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for sure and obviously you'll mention in
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the last chapter
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and then i had a great interview with
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the guy from the tundra
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brian brown brian brown blew my mind yes
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thank you thank you all right so
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anything else other than the book what
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else is on the horizon for basis of
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fortitude
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i mean i just the faces of fortitude is
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an
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arm of a full um gamut of things now you
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know i did my tedx talk my first tedx
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talk last year
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and that was in ohio and that was pretty
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it was pretty raw
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and pretty vulnerable but it was also
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probably one of the best experiences
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i've ever had
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and so between that and
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um i had another one scheduled for this
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past april at
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dartmouth university dartmouth college
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um
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which is just postponed until next april
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which is good
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so it's already written and ready um and
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then i just um you've spoken to her on
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email my
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new agent i just finally got an agent
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you know i didn't know how that process
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worked and so i was cold calling agents
18:39
after my ted talk you want me do you
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want me and
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i had to learn really fast that's not
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how it works it's one of those we'll
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call you
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and they finally called me so um i've
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got an agent now
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and um she's working really hard to kind
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of onboard me
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to the world and um so i will be faces
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of fortitude is a just a tier
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of you know between the writing and the
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public speaking
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and then traveling um photo galleries
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my exhibits are really important and
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it's something that i've built
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as an experience for people to face
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their own mental health
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um so i hope to start touring with that
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exhibit uh in the future as well i had
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one built
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again for april that was uh supposed to
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debut here in seattle
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uh in town hall and it was gonna it's
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it's gonna be called the faces of
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fortitude experience and it's pretty
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pretty mind-blowing i'm really excited
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about it and so hopefully that can
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happen
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um or let's just say it will just in the
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future so those are
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a lot of the things um that are planned
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i'm really excited
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2021 you're going to dominate 2021
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you're taking it over
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yes i'm going to hit the ground running
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that's i'm all this is prep so that when
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the world opens back up
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and we'll be there perfect well thank
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you so much for joining me today and
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being so
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vulnerable and opening up your heart and
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to our audience here today thank you
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of course thanks for having me it's been
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lovely all right and we'll
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include links down below to everything
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so everybody can learn more about you
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and faces of fortitude
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all right thank you so much mariangela
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you have a good one of course you too
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Mariangela Abeo is a mental health advocate, podcast host, photographer, and the creator of the Faces of Fortitude movement. The movement began as a series of portraits that document the healing of those affected by suicide – providing a safe, stigma-free space both virtually and in person for mental health and suicide to be discussed. Mariangela's latest project is the recently launched podcast "Face to Faces", a conversation series that provides a platform focusing on the LGBTQ+ & POC communities and their allies, in the areas of activism, politics, mental health, arts & entertainment and community, discussing the human experience in our ever changing world.
If you're a Photography Enthusiast, follow this link to check out Mariangela's website and learn more about their upcoming projects: https://mariangelaabeo.com/
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